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I have a slight speech impediment and I usually stutter when I talk. Couple that with a habit of saying whatever comes to my mind without thinking and I'm kinda screwed on socializing. Not to mention I really hate East Tennessee and most of the jackasses who live in it.

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My friend sort of has the same problem like you REM.

Ugh, well, the thing is, he's sort of awesome when you get to know him, but he doesn't like socialising as much because of he's had problems back in the past before we both met. He rarely goes out with friends, only with his parents or brother. My friend forced him to come out, and he did. But he never enjoyed it because he was afraid of stuff. I think all he wanted to do was to stay in his house, but get friends to come with him.

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Let me get something straight here, I don't have a personal life really and it isn't my fault (I don't think at least), I have severe social anxiety because of traumatic experiences when I was a kid. They're not as bad as you think but let's just say I've met some assholes in my life.

Bullied? I was when I was 5 years old. The moment we moved to the Netherlands. One of the reasons I've always hated this country. But that was 10 years ago anyway. To be honest I'm a real ass now. Tend to always find fault with everyone. Annoying people just for the sake of my own enjoyment and I'm rather harsh in my opinions.

I don't feel bad about it though. At least now people shut up when you tell them to. I'm starting to interact much more with other people in a friendly way, but I actually don't really like it. I'm faking my feelings (or at least what I show) far too much, and I've never wanted to do that.

I like limiting my interactions with other to just a small group. Much easier, much more fun. And we do. Group of 6 and it is much fun.

Interactions with girls I actually like doesn't really go far though..

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My friend sort of has the same problem like you REM.

Ugh, well, the thing is, he's sort of awesome when you get to know him, but he doesn't like socialising as much because of he's had problems back in the past before we both met. He rarely goes out with friends, only with his parents or brother. My friend forced him to come out, and he did. But he never enjoyed it because he was afraid of stuff. I think all he wanted to do was to stay in his house, but get friends to come with him.

What a dick for forcing him to go out. Seriously. And I don't understand what you mean when you said he wants to stay in the house but get friends to go out with him? I just like to stay in the house period.

Let me get something straight here, I don't have a personal life really and it isn't my fault (I don't think at least), I have severe social anxiety because of traumatic experiences when I was a kid. They're not as bad as you think but let's just say I've met some assholes in my life.

Bullied? I was when I was 5 years old. The moment we moved to the Netherlands. One of the reasons I've always hated this country. But that was 10 years ago anyway. To be honest I'm a real ass now. Tend to always find fault with everyone. Annoying people just for the sake of my own enjoyment and I'm rather harsh in my opinions.

I don't feel bad about it though. At least now people shut up when you tell them to. I'm starting to interact much more with other people in a friendly way, but I actually don't really like it. I'm faking my feelings (or at least what I show) far too much, and I've never wanted to do that.

I like limiting my interactions with other to just a small group. Much easier, much more fun. And we do. Group of 6 and it is much fun.

Interactions with girls I actually like doesn't really go far though..

It's worse than bullying kind of, it takes a while to explain and I don't want to go on a rant right now. It involves teachers, kids, parents, random people, etc.

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My friend sort of has the same problem like you REM.

Ugh, well, the thing is, he's sort of awesome when you get to know him, but he doesn't like socialising as much because of he's had problems back in the past before we both met. He rarely goes out with friends, only with his parents or brother. My friend forced him to come out, and he did. But he never enjoyed it because he was afraid of stuff. I think all he wanted to do was to stay in his house, but get friends to come with him.

What a dick for forcing him to go out. Seriously. And I don't understand what you mean when you said he wants to stay in the house but get friends to go out with him? I just like to stay in the house period.

I meant to say he likes staying home, but he prefers me and my friend to come over his house and chill, rather than meet up at some place.

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The whole reason for me being how I am socially is because of psychological and emotional bullying from the head teacher at my first school, then I left that school with serious anger problems, which led to me throwing a brick at someone on my first day at my new school, nearly breaking someone's leg, when they threw a ball at me, then things went kind of ok there, until I went to secondary school, there the teachers thought that I should be treated like everyone else, that means if I react to anything, I get excluded, after 10 times of being excluded, a lot of bullying and torture, I left to go to a school where they have units that specialise in my conditions, but after all that, people made friends with me on my first day, and I tried to go along with it all, but it got really fucked up, so I just completely avoided it and kept myself alone all the time, then after a 7 week break of being alone at home with no friends at all, I get into my 3rd year at secondary school, I go into school, and every time I get to being in a social situation, I feel lots of guilt and I can't speak properly, I look at the floor and twitch. After almost a year of everything being quite normal with people who understand me more, I've gotten a lot better and look at people more and speak more, and I've made proper friends and stuff, so I guess it'll all be perfect in a few years, but I still feel really uncomfortable, and probably always will.

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No-one to socialise with :( ... I live in an old-folk town and all the teens are grungers and emos... ugh... my best friend lives 300 miles away... but he's coming next summer so.... BYE SUCKAS!!! if there were more ppl where i lived i wouldn't be here.

What's wrong with grungers?

Uhum nothing... Let's just say i've got a totally different lifestyle. I like to chill...

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I can identify with quite a bit of stuff from this topic. I was bullied to shit when I was about 9, so I had to change school. The new school was miles away, and nobody lived anywhere near me, which meant that I couldnt just go round and see friends and stuff. I kept seeing all the bullies for years, and so never did anything locally (no clubs or anything), and so never socialised with anyone close by.

I guess you could say I was socially inexperienced, so I never really made any good friends at that school. I got involved with the wrong crowds, the anarchist type, and got into trouble for shit. Eventually I changed school because of that, found people who shared interests with me, who lived a bit closer, and made some real friends for the firs time. I also found things I loved to do, and really developed myself for these years. Then we all turned 17 and started to drive, so we could go everywhere and do stuff all the time.

Now at uni, I have a few friends, a couple of good friends, and I know loads of other people. I'm keeping busy (Executive Officer of the Students' Union) and doing loads of stuff, and it's great.

I now put not having friends down to being inexperienced. Sometimes you just need someone in the same situation as you to be friends with - someone who doesn't judge you on first appearances - to gain the experience you need to be able to socialise properly. If everyone else is good at it, they'll tend to reject people who aren't, which doesn't help.

It also helps to be good at whatever you do, so you feel alright about getting involved. For example, if your friends all go bowling a lot, you'll find it easier to say "yes" if you're good at it. Same if they play sport or computer games or go to the pub or whatever. Do whatever you can to boost your confidence, and people will begin to accept you eventually.

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Well, the past week has been going really well, it's like a dream come true really, I've had my hair cut, tried my fucking hardest to act as normal as I can, got a small gang that will always stick with me, an awesome girlfriend and everybody's really nice with me, and because of all that it's made me feel more comfortable around people, so I guess it really couldn't get much better, what I've always wanted it to turn out like.

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I still respect you a shit load because you're a pervert.

:unsure:

But still no girlfriend.. :(

i know the feeling mate! fucking annoying aint it?

well i like to think i have a socail life, when not on study leave, but yeah i go to parties, restuaruants and stuff with mates we have a gpood laugh and get wasted:)

Although i do never repent of not having one.Or more truly not finding a girl of my type. :P

Sometimes i do get a insecure feeling or loneliness feeling when i do have fights with mates and buddies.Which is more often in my case. :P

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