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#81 Sherman

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 12:31 AM

Well, I mean... she's really nice looking on both sides.. heh. I don't want to seem interested right off, but little hints to show I'm a little interested later on... definately.

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 11:37 AM

Thanks Jade ^_^ I doubt its the way I act as Im really shy.

I just wonder with guys is looks the most important thing with girls, do you guys reject a very nice girl because she isnt good looking enough? Just wondering as sometimes I wonder if its true

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 01:38 PM

I'm obviously not a guy but I think I can answer that...kinda <_<


There are of course lots of guys who don't care as much about looks and actually do go for things like personality. IMO, people who just go for looks are shallow as hell but that's a whole other topic.

I think that because guys are more visual than women, they go for the pretty faces as opposed to the nice girl. Women are more into nice guy who is comforting and is a shoulder to cry on and caring and makes her feel protected. I know that I am personally not into that macho muscle man type, it's nasty to me. It's more personality for women and looks for guys.

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#84 Sherman

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 03:43 PM

Well, on occasion I will. But most the time if I find them ugly, they annoy the hell out of me so it doesn't really matter..

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 04:27 PM

Yeah, but what if it's an arguement over what you were doing at her best friends house last night? Or something similar...


What exactly would anyone be trying to "win" in that situation? If all you want is the person to say what they did, that's the point of the argument. You stick to that point and don't stray. You don't bring up something the other person did, (especially if it has no bearing) or bring up families, that type of thing. Stick to the topic.
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Posted 12 June 2007 - 06:00 PM

I'm obviously not a guy but I think I can answer that...kinda <_<


There are of course lots of guys who don't care as much about looks and actually do go for things like personality. IMO, people who just go for looks are shallow as hell but that's a whole other topic.

I think that because guys are more visual than women, they go for the pretty faces as opposed to the nice girl. Women are more into nice guy who is comforting and is a shoulder to cry on and caring and makes her feel protected. I know that I am personally not into that macho muscle man type, it's nasty to me. It's more personality for women and looks for guys.

Yeh but guys get urges and will just go with what they can get, average looks and personality, not our fault, blame the homrones :D. Damn i need a new girlfriend...

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 09:12 PM

Not to interrupt discussion but does anyone else think it would be a good idea if we renamed this "The Relationship help topic"?
Reason being that we do have girls here too, and unless they're lesbian or bi they aren't going to get help from here, changing it to the title above will make it unisex so the girls can use this topic for when they have "guy problems".

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 09:16 PM

Yeah it should be changed.

I'm still Having trouble about long distance relationships. (Well its just a 35-40 min drive to get over to the girls house ) Not sure how that will work.

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 09:25 PM

Long distance relationships kinda suck, but they can work out I guess if you're both committed.

But the bad things are:
you don't see them very often
can be harder to trust them - it's easy for them to have a relationship with someone else, and harder for you to find out
it's harder to get to know each other personally since you won't be with each other as often
phone bills will be pretty high, or internet usage, whatever

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 10:16 PM

@Chris: No. U NO POST N MI FORUMZ, U NO GIT NAME.



I dunno, is it really worth the effort? You can do it if you want. Because not all of it is relationship? Or actualy, maybe it is. YOU CHANGE IT! :P

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 10:19 PM

Long distance relationships kinda suck, but they can work out I guess if you're both committed.

But the bad things are:
you don't see them very often
can be harder to trust them - it's easy for them to have a relationship with someone else, and harder for you to find out
it's harder to get to know each other personally since you won't be with each other as often
phone bills will be pretty high, or internet usage, whatever



Sometimes though, not seeing them often is better. For example, my husband was on midnight shift from September to January and then he was on afternoon shift (130PM-10PM) and my shift is 7AM-330PM so I only saw him for about a minute or two at work (we work at the same place) when he was on afternoons and on the weekends he would wake up at around 3PM so I would get maybe 6 hours with him and that was it. When he was on midnights, I pretty much just talked to him everyday. The thing is, it makes you miss them more. People tend to get irritated for no reason if they se each other all the time so when you have a break like this, it brings you closer. That lasted from September until May. Now he on dayshift (1030AM-7PM) so I get more time with him and on weekends we wake up at the same time.

I think it realy depends how far in the relationship you are though. If you are just starting out, chances are, one or both partners will cheat. This can happen to people who have been together for a while too but people starting out don't really get the same feelings for each other as people who have been together and been through a lot.

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 10:23 PM

Long distance relationships kinda suck, but they can work out I guess if you're both committed.

But the bad things are:
you don't see them very often
can be harder to trust them - it's easy for them to have a relationship with someone else, and harder for you to find out
it's harder to get to know each other personally since you won't be with each other as often
phone bills will be pretty high, or internet usage, whatever

Yeah thats what I think also, also I may run out of thing to talk about, I will only have "How you doing, what you doing this weekend, etc" That will eventually get boring. Well my chance is coming up this Thursday, I plan on saying "I cant ask you out because we leave pretty far" and she says "lets try it" then I'll go for it.

The only days I can see her, maybe weekends (I doubt I can be over there every weekend), some weekdays, when school is out early. I'll see what I an do. :mellow:

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 11:14 PM

Chris - Absence makes the heart grow fonder, IF you can handle the trust thing.

SkyliИe - You hit a couple things on page 4, which one so I don't give you bad intel.

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 11:15 PM

If you can't trust the person, you shouldn't be in the relationship in the first place. A relationship is built on trust.

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 11:23 PM

I have a friend who is in an internet relationship, she is 16 and he is 15. To me its a bad idea as they will never meet, but they are enagaged. To be honest I think they are just deluded. He broke up with her for a guy then came back and they started "dating" again. She seemed he seemed sorry but how could he when its msn?!?! Makes no sense.

Thats the kind of long distance relationship I dont agree with.

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 11:30 PM

When your talking about that kind of Long distance relations, I can under stand, it wont work. But when its just on the East of you, Then it gets difficult cuz your not sure what to do.

I was playing Halo once, and these 2 people said they where together, so I tell them where they live at. One of them say Michigan the other I forgot (somewhere in the East coast). They met on Halo, and they promise me they where going to meet once they turned 18. I wonder if it happened, I doubt it.

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#97 Sherman

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Posted 12 June 2007 - 11:54 PM

@UO: Wanted your opinion on

How well/long should you know someone before complimenting their looks?




Even though I got advice from other people, it's cool to be from all people knowledgable on the subject ;)

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Posted 13 June 2007 - 12:19 AM

I think it depends, I guess you can compliment people straight away. I love compliments they make me feel happy..............well depends what compliments

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Posted 13 June 2007 - 01:08 AM

Bear beat me to that one, but she's right. Right away is fine for most as long as they're not some cheesy line like "Oh god
you're so HOT!!" "you make me SOOO horny"... That kinda stuff.

Things like "I like your hair" or "that looks good on you" ("You look good in that" could imply you think the clothes/hair/etc are what make them look good, Psychos look for that) are usually good. Sometimes a well placed sincere compliment really makes someone feel better.

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Posted 13 June 2007 - 01:21 AM

I see. I don't want to come on too quick, or not at all and completely miss. I think I'll try to bring up something tonight that talks about looks, or something and try it. Heh.




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